Wednesday, December 31, 2008

More questions and answers

Answering these random question are fun, so I will now answer this set of questions:

Have you ever thoug​ht about​ getti​ng your lip pierc​ed?​

Ouch, Never!


Have you ever passe​d out on the bathr​oom floor​?​
I'm not sure if I passed out, but I certainly blacked out. As I mentioned in one of these question/answers blog posts before, I did get so drunk once that I was found slumped in a bathroom and needed medical attention.


Do you start​ the water​ befor​e you get in the showe​r or when you get in?
Before. It takes a while for the water to warm up, so I brush my teeth while I wait for the shower to get warm.

What did you do today​?​

( Dec 30th as I write this ) Today, I watched the boys in the morning, did a little MSN chatting, went out for lunch/shopping with my wife and kids ( Ruth works part-time ( She's a doctor, BTW - she's working at a local nursing home ) so she can spend more time with the kids. The boys are off from school this week, so I'm staying home with the kids ( It's hard for Ruth to get Christmas week off as a part-timer )), came home with a food coma ( We were stuffed after eating lunch, but the boys inisted on desserts ( large ice cream desserts ) and then barely touched them. Ruth and I then wound up eating a large amount of ice cream ), did some exercise, ate a really small dinner, watched the boys play with their new toys, broke up fights when they wanted the same toy, worked on this blog, and loaded some facebook photos.


Have you ever brush​ed your teeth​ while​ in the showe​r?​
Nope, though I pour some mouthwash into my mouth just before I get in the shower, and then spit up the mouthwash about 30 seconds later while in the shower.


Do you know how to use chop stick​s?​
Most people from New York City do. However, during my Freshmen year at college I was given special training from a friend from Taiwan who wanted to show me the proper "Taiwanese way". He insisted that most of the Cantonese-speaking people from Chinatown hold chopsticks the wrong way ( Many people hold chopsticks in such a way that they form an "X". The chopsticks are held toward the middle, and when you open the chopsticks an "X" is formed ( when you close the chopsticks they are roughly parallel ). My friend insisted that the "X" way is completely wrong, and that the far superior way to use chopsticks is to hold them in a "V" configuration ( where the food is held at the point of the "V" ) ). Anyway, I followed the instructions of my "chopstick master" and was soon very proficient in the style he taught.

What are you doing​ tomor​row?​
Tomorrow is Dec 31st as a write this. Tomorrow my wife and I will be going to a nice lunch and a movie without the kids! Ruth's sister and her husband have volunteered to babysit the boys for a few hours. However Peter isn't potty trained yet and neither one of them has ever changed a diaper before, so this should be interesting. No big New Years Eve plans, though we'll probably stay up until midnight to ring in the new year.


Who was the last perso​n you could​n'​t take your eyes off of?
I like this question a lot because it is challenging. Challenging in the sense that it is very difficult for a married man to answer this question without seeming like ..

a) A sleazy guy

OR

b) A liar

I am neither a sleazy guy nor a liar, but unfortunately it will take quite a long-winded answer to prove this.

Let me start this long-winded answer by going into my rather less-than-typical history of being attracted to women. In the years before I met Ruth, there were probably about 1000 girls that I found so physically attractive that I "couldn't take my eyes off them". However, there were only a small handful of girls that I really "fell" for. There were only a small handful of girls that I actually had any desire to date. I guess this was because I was never really the kind of guy who wanted to "hit on" girls or "score" with them. Sure, I was a regular high_school/college guy with all the associated hormones, but I've always had an extremely romantic outlook on love. While I could certainly recognize and appreciate when a girl was extremely attractive, I never really had a desire to be with a girl unless I thought she was somebody I might want to marry someday. In fact, by the time I would get to the point of wanting to ask a girl out, I had pretty much convinced myself that the girl I was interested in was "the one", and that I would lead a tragically lonely life if she rejected me. As you might imagine, this led to a tremendous fear of rejection, and I once went a long as 16 months in one case before actually gathering up the courage to let the girl know the way I felt. Of course, one of the problems here is that I would eventually let these girls know "the way I felt" rather than simply asking them out on a casual date. Now, I never actually told any of these girls "I want to marry you", but I was expressing such intense feelings for these particular girls, that it wouldn't have been hard for them to read between the lines and figure out that I was viewing them a potential spouse. So, with that in mind, you can imagine how my attempts to court these girls went. These girls were all between the ages of 17 and 19 when I expressed my feelings to them, and I doubt that there are too many teenage girls who are thinking about marriage. Even if any of these girls did have the potential to be attracted to me, I pretty much ruined any chance I had by coming on WAY too strong. Then again, I guess it's all a matter of finding the right girl. A few weeks after we started dating, ( YT plug: My latest video gives the story about how I started dating Ruth ) Ruth said something to the effect of "It's not like we are going to get married or anything". This upset me a bit, and let her know that I thought there was a good chance that we would get married someday. I'm sure that shocked her a bit, but it didn't scare her off, and within in a few months she had come around to my way of thinking.

The point I'm trying to make here is that there was big difference between the feelings I had for those 1000 or so girls I "couldn't take my eyes off of", and the very small number of girls I had romantic feelings for. I certainly considered the girls I had romantic feeling for to be pretty, but it wasn't their looks that made me fall for them so deeply. It was something else that made me fall for them romantically. For each girl it was probably something a little bit different, but whatever it was, those girls had it and those other 1000 or so girls didn't. So my point here is that:

a) There is a big difference between physical attraction and romantic attraction.

b) I've never been one to confuse one with the other.

c) The only women I've ever wanted to court/date/marry are the ones I've been romantically attracted to.

So, with all those qualifiers above, I hope I can say without seeming sleazy that as a heterosexual male with typical male hormones, I have certainly found women other than Ruth physically attractive in the 17+ years I've been with Ruth. However, while I may have found many women to be physically attractive, I certainly haven't been romantically attracted to any of them.

So, to complete this long answer to this simple question, I would have to say that the last woman I "couldn't take my eyes off of" ( In the sense that I thought, "OMG, that woman is f*ckin' hot!" ) would be a random woman I saw at the mall a few days ago.

Now, while I've been completely sincere in my answer above, it's probably a good thing that Ruth doesn't read this blog. I think Ruth is even a little bit jealous that I was attracted to other women before I met her, so if she was ever able to identify some random woman I found attractive, I think she would want to hunt that random woman down ( She's a lot tougher than she looks ).


Have you ever run over an anima​l?​
No, but a friend of mine did when I was sitting in the front passenger seat. It was an unpleasant experience and quite an unpleasant smell.


What is your favor​ite cerea​l?​
Cheerios!


Have you ever had an Oreo with peanu​t butte​r?​
Nope. Love Oreos and love peanut butter, but never tried to combine the two. Perhaps I will try this at work once using the fresh peanut butter from our peanut butter machine.


What are you doing​ right​ at this momen​t?​
Blogging, obviously. Also loading photos to facebook.


Do you think​ its right​ for strai​ght guys to get their​ tongu​e pierc​ed?​
Hey, whatever makes somebody happy is fine with me.

What kind of car do you drive​?​
Honda Odyssey ( I am a suburban Dad, after all ).


Have you ever had a garag​e sale?​
At my parents house in the past, but not at my house. I think I just cherish my weekend leisure time to much to spend a day running a garage sale. When we get too much clutter, we usually just give a lot of stuff away to charity ( lots of old toys the boys have grown out of or are now bored with ).


What color​ is your iPod?​
I am iPod-less.


What is the last drink​ you drank​?​
Green tea.


Last time you were sick?​
I had a minor one-day cold a week-or-so ago, but I'm usually quite healthy.


What DVD is in your DVD playe​r?​
I just walked downstairs to check. It's a "Dora the Explorer" DVD entitled "Meet Diego".


What'​s somet​hing fun you did today​?​
Any weekday when I don't work is fun. There's really nothing I described in the "What did you do today" question that was not fun.


What do you think​ of when you hear the word "​meow"​?​
A cat ( was this a trick question? ).


When is your birth​day?​
January 15, 1970 ( Nerdy note: I am almost an "Epoch Baby". It is a common practice in computer programming to measure time in "epoch time", which is the number of seconds since January 1, 1970. ).


What are you going​ to do after​ this?​
Perhaps put captions on the facebook photos I loaded, but I'll probably just go to sleep.


What is somet​hing you need to go shopp​ing for?
I could use an external drive for my Mac ( To backup photos - we are using CDs to do that now, but it is beginning to be a pain ).


Do you like pickl​es?​
I don't like dill pickles much, but I love the bread-n-butter kind!


How about​ olive​s?​
Not a big fan of olives. However, I love olive oil.


What is your favor​ite kind of gum?
I haven't had gum in many many years. If I had to have some gum, I would want to have the cardboard-like bubble gum that came in packs of baseball cards when I was a kid ( just for the sake of nostalgia ).


Do you have tan lines​?​
I try to avoid getting any tans at all. Skin cancer is bad, and premature aging isn't so hot either.


Has anyon​e ever sang to you?
Nope. As I said in the other blog post, I have been a serenader, but never a serenadee.


Which​ do you prefe​r,​ to eat or sleep​?​
Eating. I don't sleep much ( feel like I might miss something while I'm asleep ).


Can you do split​s?​
Not even close. I'm generally quite athletic, but I may be the least flexible man on earth

How many hours​ of sleep​ did you get last night​?​
About 5.


Do you wear your seatb​elt in the car?
Yes. I won't drive unless everyone in the car is wearing their seatbelt.


What do you sleep​ in?
My bed - usually in a t-shirt and shorts ( sweatshirt and sweatpants in the winter ).


Do you have any tatto​os?​
Nope.


Have you ever been to Los Angel​es?​
Yes, but I didn't see much of it. Ruth and I landed in LA once to do a Chinese bus tour of some sights in the west ( Vegas, Grand Canyon, etc. ). We got there a day before the bus tour started, so we did spend a day at DisneyLand.


What jewel​ry do you wear all the time?​
Just my wedding ring.


What color​ is your under​wear right​ now?
Basic white Hanes briefs ( I'm a simple guy, and hey - if it's good enough for Michael Jordan, it's good enough for me ).


What was the last thing​ you ate?
A Tim Tam actually ( BTW Shweta, I did try a Tim Tam Slam with some hot milk last night. Actually, I tried 2 - one with the original flavor, and one with the chewy caramel kind. It was quite good! )


Favor​ite type of Food?​
I answered this in a previous blog post. I guess if I had to pick one type of food, Chinese food would be at the top of the list.


Last Movie​ you watch​ed?​
I Am Legend ( Another 90 minutes of my life I will not get back. The CGI scenes of a desolate Manhattan were really cool, but it basically turned into a zombie movie about 30 minutes into it ).


Are you missi​ng someo​ne?​
Not atm.


Do you ever prete​nd to be someo​ne else just to look cool?​
Nope.


Do you think​ you are emoti​onall​y stron​g?​
I don't know if I'd call myself emotionally strong, but I am uncommonly calm.


Do you prefe​r knowi​ng someo​ne befor​e datin​g them?​
I would hope so.


Are you tired​?​
No, but I probably should be


How long does it take you to get ready​ in the morni​ng?​
On a work day, my alarm goes off at 6:07 and I'm out the door by 6:24.


Would​ you ever have plast​ic surge​ry?​
Nope.


Do you tan?
Don't want to tan ( skin cancer = BAD ).


Have you ever waite​d onlin​e for someo​ne to come on?
Well, I don't know if I'd call it waiting online, but I'm logged into MSN most of the time when I'm home, so I'm always up for having a fun chat if I hear that bell sound from my computer.

Tuesday, December 30, 2008

Winter Wonderland



I just thought I'd show the photo above to give my blog readers and idea of what winters look like in Edison, New Jersey. Actually, the photo above isn't from this winter; it's from 3 winters ago ( taken on February 12, 2006 - we got 27 inches of snow that day ). I do have some much less impressive snow photos from this year on my facebook page, though I am planning to load some winter photos from the last three years on facebook when I get the chance ( I have folders full of photos with names like Winter 2005/2006 on my desktop - I just need to find the time to load the photos while adding captions to them. This should happen in a fews days ).
Oh, and my next blog post should be a relatively long one. I'll be doing one of those questions and answer thingys, and there's at least one question that I think I'll have a lot of fun answering.
Rich

Monday, December 22, 2008

Stranger on a Train

So, I was riding the subway on the way home from work tonight, when a guy takes a look at the JETS logo on my winter hat and says "Tough game, huh."
This didn't really surprise me. The JETS indeed had a very tough game on Sunday. The loss effectively knocked the Jets out of the playoff race, and for the 40th the year in a row, the Jets would not be going to the Super Bowl. I was aware that wearing a hat with a JETS logo that day kind of made me a target. I had already heard both snide and supportive JETS-related comments earlier in the day, so I wasn't really surprised by the comment this guy made on the train. What surprised me was what happened next. After he made the comment, I gave him a quick nod and turned back to my newspaper. However, this guy was nowhere near done.

Random Guy: I can't believe they didn't go for it on 4th down on that first drive of the game.

Me ( barely glancing up): Uh-huh.

Random Guy: That was 7 points right there. They could have had 7 points instead of 3.

Me ( burying face back in newspaper ): Uhh

Random Guy: And they should have kicked that field goal in the 4th quarter! That would have given them 3 more points. They would have had 13 points! That game should have been tied 13 to 13.

Me ( wondering how 7 + 3 equals 13 ): Uh-huh

Random: Heck, but they probably would have found a way to loose that game anyway. Ha Ha!

Me ( no longer able to hide the annoyed look on my face; trying hard not to make eye contact ): Uhh

Random Guy: It's all the fault of Brett Farve. Everyone else played good, but Brett Farve was terrible. I really think that ...

Me ( No words. No longer trying to be polite. I'm just ignoring him and reading my newspaper at this point )

Random Guy ( Turning to random lady he obviously doesn't know ): Hey! That's a nice Blackberry you've got there!

Random Lady (no words)

Random Guy: Does that get reception down here in the subway?

Random Lady (Looking away; quickly shoving Blackberry into her bag )

Rich

P.S. If I don't Blog or YouTube between now and then, Merry Christmas everybody! Perhaps I wasn't showing the greatest Christmas spirit in the story above, but as all native New Yorkers know, proper subway etiquette dictates that you keep to yourself and stare at random things to avoid making eye contact with anybody. I didn't make the rules, but that's what they are.

P.P.S It snowed a little this past weekend. The boys played in the snow a bit. Perhaps I'll load some snow pictures to Blogger and facebook in the next few days.

Monday, December 15, 2008

Old School Photos

Ah, 1992! The good old days when it was socially acceptable to wear neon green short-shorts ( and show armpit hair :p ). I spent a little bit of time tonight scanning photos from my college days. Most of them have Ruth in them, so won't find them here, but please feel free to check out the rest of the photos on my facebook page ( The album is called "The Scanner Files" ). If you are reading this, and you are not on my facebook friends list, just click the facebook link on the right and send me a friends request.
Rich

Wednesday, December 10, 2008

The Gospel of Vlogging

A few days ago, I tagged a few of my subscribers in the Left Handed Drawing Tag Game in the hopes that I could get one of them to vlog for the first time. Well, dawnpop has answered the call with this video. It makes me feel good to know that I have played a part in spreading the gospel of vlogging. Way back when, an Australian vlogger inspired me to start vlogging, so now that I've convinced somebody else to make a vlog, I feel like the circle is complete and my karma is kinda balanced and all that ( especially becasue Dawn is an Aussie ). In any case, I posted this so that those of you who read my blog can check out Dawn's video and offer encouragement. As far as I'm concerned, the world can't have enough vloggers.
Rich

Tuesday, December 9, 2008

Circus weekend

We went to the Big Apple Circus this weekend. I wish I had more pictures of the circus itself, but it's a relatively small arena, and you are really not supposed to take flash photgraphy during the show. We did take a few shots, but the boys really were not looking in most of them. The picture below was the best we could do.

We actually had pretty decent seats. We were in the first row of the second level, so the boys were able to see pretty well. It was a rather impressive show ( There was a pair of juggling acrobats who were doing flips and jumping over each other, all while juggling 8 clubs between them. There was also a guy who could throw huge vases in the air, catch them on his head, and make the vases spin and dance on his head only by twisting his head around.), but unfortunately we had to leave halfway through the show. About two acts into the show, Michael started asking "Is this over yet?", and "How many more minutes?". In any case, we had a good time while we were there. While we didn't get many good circus pictures, we did get some decent pictures on the train rides back and forth from the circus.

( Note: We made sure Michael was sitting down on the subway, but Ruth wanted to take one shot with Michael standing up holding the pole ).

Peter leaning into his Mommy.
Michael chillin' out on the subway.

This shot below was taken on the New Jersey Transit train back to Edison. Peter was wiped out after a long day.

The shot below was actually taken two weeks ago when we were waiting on line to see Santa. However, it was such a cute shot of Peter that I couldn't help but post it.

I'll try to have a more text-based post soon.
Rich

Tuesday, December 2, 2008

65 questions

Another idea which I stole from Shweta ( who stole it from somebody else ).

1. What's your name?
Rich


2. What is your favorite thing to wear?
Old T-shirts.


3. Last thing you ate?
Rice pudding.


4. One place you will NEVER eat at?
Any place that cares more about atmosphere and decor than the food. It's all about the food baby!


5. I say Shotgun, you say:
I'm driving!


6. Last person you hugged?
My son Peter.


7. Does anyone you know wanna date you?
Everyone I know is aware that I'm married.


8. Would you date anyone you met online?
Nope, because I'm a married fella.
However, if social networking sites had existed back when I was in
high school / college ( a long time ago - I turn 39 next month ), there's
probably a 100% chance that I would have dated ( and probably married )
somebody I met online. I was a very shy fellow, and I always had trouble approaching
the opposite sex. I think things would have been a lot different for me if something like
YouTube had existed back then. YouTube videos would have been a great way to break the ice
with people, and I think I would have had a lot more friends ( both male and female ) if they could
have "met" me via YouTube videos. Sometimes I think I was born about 20 years to early. Today's world
of social networking sites is exactly what I needed way back then.


9. Name something you like physically about yourself:
Being relatively tall can be quite useful. I can get stuff up on
high shelves!


10. The last place you went out to dinner to?
When you have two kids, you can't go out to fancy
restaurants anymore. The last place was probably McDonald's.


11. Who is your best friend?
That would be my wife.


12. What time of the day is it?
11:19 PM on Dec 2nd, 2008.


13. Who/What made you angry today?
Didn't really get angry today. I'm not a very angry guy.


14. Baseball or Football?
Baseball.


15. Ever gone skinny dipping?
Nope, and I don't want to.


16. Favorite type of Food?
So many. I love variety! I guess Asian food in
general would be at the top of the list ( Chinese, Thai, Indian, Japanese, Vietnamese - so many
choices in the New York City area ), but if nutrition didn't matter at all, I could eat pastries and ice cream
all day. Right now, I am craving some perfectly baked chocolate chip cookies with nuts.


17. Favorite holiday:
Christmas.


18. Do you download music?
Nope. I do not even own an mp3 player. All my music is on CDs I bought 15 years or more ago.
I guess I'm just a geezer in that regard.


19. Do you care if your socks are dirty?
Clean. I'm a bit of a neat freak.


20. Opinion of Chinese symbol tattoos?
Those are just silly, unless you actually speak the language ( Though I actually think
tattoos in general are silly ).


21. Would you date the person that posted this?
I'm not even sure what this means. I think a bunch of people have
posted this by now. I'm married anyway, and while questions like "If you were theoretically
single, would you date this person" might be fun to ponder, it's probably best for a married
person not to answer such questions in a public forum.


22. Has anyone ever sang or played for you personally?
Nope. I've been a serenader many times ( for just one person though - the woman
who became my wife - I'm not some kind of gigolo serenader who sings to all the lasses
in town ), but never a serenadee. :(

Oh, BTW, an example of a song I serenaded my wife with is "Till There Was You".
I sang this for her at our engagement party. I think this song has some of the most romantic
lyrics of all time.


23. Do you love anyone?
I love lots of folks, and I let them know it.


24. Are colored contact lenses sexy?
I think they are stupid. I think people should go with their natural eye color. Most people
who get these lenses are trying to switch from brown to green or blue, but I personally don't
think anything is sexier than a pair of beautiful brown eyes.

25. Have you ever bungee jumped?
Yup, and I'm glad I did. Now that I have life insurance, I don't think I'm allowed to do that kind of stuff anymore ( Well, I could, but if I died doing it, my kids would get nothing - so effectively I can't ).


26. Have you ever gone white-water rafting?
I'd love to, but it hasn't happened yet.


27. Has anyone ten years older than you ever hit on you?
I don't think I've ever been hit on, period ( Unless you count emails from stalker girls from my high school, and the occasional suggestive YouTube comment ). I've also never hit on anybody. Before I met my wife, there were really only 3 girls I had the courage to express my affection for ( 2 in High School, 1 in college ). In all three cases, I was pretty much the opposite of a smooth operator. I basically held my feeling in until I was completely obsessed with these girls, and then ambushed them with an "I love you!" message in the following ways:
1st High School girl: 30 page love letter
2nd High School girl: Flower and short love poem ( It was "Spring Flower Day" in High School ).
College girl: Long love poem
As far as my wife is concerned, she actually made sure I found out via the grapevine that she was attracted to me. After that, I proceeded to court her in a rather awkward manner, but nobody would say that I "hit" on her.


28. How many pets do you have?
None, I'm allergic to dogs and cats.


29. Have you met a real redneck?
I was thrown in jail by one in Texas ( See this link ).


30. How is the weather right now?
It's just below freezing outside ( I hate the weather in the Northeast USA ).

31. What are you listening to right now?
Nothing at the moment.

32. What is your current favorite song?
I have too many favorites to name just one, but my favorite recording of all
time is Roy Orbison's "Crying". It's a beautiful song, and Roy just might have had the most
beautiful voice of all time.

33. What was the last movie you watched?
Balls of Fury. I will never get those 90 minutes of my life back. :(

34. Do you wear contacts?
Nope. I sees good.


35. Where was the last place you went besides your house?
Work.

36. What are you afraid of?
Everything about my kids' future. You worry a lot as a parent.

37. How many piercings have you had?
Zero.


38. What piercings do you want?
None.


39. What's one thing you've learned this year?
I've learned that blogging can be fun!


40. What do you usually order from Starbucks?
I don't really order from Starbucks. About 10 years ago, I decided
to give up all drinks with caffeine. I did this for health reasons. I'm not
really religious about it or anything, so I won't freak out if I happen to consume
caffeine ( Chocolate has caffeine, and I'll certainly eat that! ). I just figured that
anything that artificially keeps you awake and increases your heart rate can't be
good for your health in the long run. When I gave up caffeine cold turkey, I went from
needing 6 hours a sleep a night to 10 hours of sleep a night. However, after 1 week, my body
re-adjusted, and I went back to only needing 6 hours of sleep.


41. What Magazines are you reading?
All of them! ( As Sarah Palin might say! )
Actually, I read The New York Times Magazine, Sports Illustrated, and WIRED.


42. Have you ever fired a gun:
Only if you count a BB gun.


43. Are you missing someone?
I'm always missing somebody. You can't be with all the people you love all the time.


44. Favourite TV show?
Too many choices to pick my favorite show of all time. The one that
pops into my head now is "Cheers", but it could be something else.
My favorite weekly program is probably MythBusters.
However, the show I watch the most ( every night at 8 PM ) is "Countdown with
Keith Olbermann" ( I also love "Hardball with Chris Matthews - I'm a big fan of political
commentary ).


45. Do you have an obession with WoW?
Nope.


46. Has anyone ever said you looked like a celeb?
I've had multiple people tell me I look like David Arquette
and Paul McCartney. If you check the "out of context quotes" on
my YouTube page, you'll see that one person asked if I was Paul
McCartney's illegitimate son.
These comparisons are probably the most accurate ( because so many people
have told me I look like Arquette and McCartney ), but the most interesting
comparison is the one people made to the "Preppie Killer"
The wikipedia link above tells the whole story, but in August of 1986, a
fellow called Robert Chambers strangled his ex-girlfriend to death while having
sex in a park. The story and the trial were big news for the next year or so, and
from that point on, at least 5 different people in high school told me I looked like
the "Preppie Killer".
.
.
.
No wonder I couldn't get a date in high school.

47. What celeb do you look like?
Hopefully not the Preppie Killer.


48. Who would you like to see right now?
Sometime I wish I could see my Mom again. She passed away
about two months after I got married. I feel blessed that she got
to see my wedding, but it's sad that she never got to meet her grandkids.


49. Favorite movie of all time?
The Shawshank Redemption. Every time I notice it's on TV ( and it's
on TV quite a bit ), I can't help but watch it until the end.


50. Do you find yourself loved?
I feel loved every time I hug my boys.


51. Have you ever been caught doing something you weren't suppose to?
Yes. I'm kinda a goody-two-shoes in general, but I aint no saint.


52. Favorite smell?
Fresh baked cookies!


53. Butter, plain, or salted popcorn?
I actually like kettle corn, which is sweet.


54. What's something that really bugs you?
People who cut in line on the highway. You know
how sometimes the highway splits into two parts
and you need to be in two particular lanes to get where
you are going? Those lanes inevitably get all backed up, and
it winds up talking 30 minutes to travel the last 1000 feet before
the highway splits. The reason is takes 30 minutes is that certain
bozos think it's okay to travel in the fast moving lanes until the last
possible second, and then cut front of everybody else right where the
road splits. I hate those people. I take back what I said in question 13
about not being angry. I'm angry now.


55. Do you like Michael Jackson?
I was in Junior High School when he did his famous Moonwalk at the
Motown 25th anniversary celebration. The next day in school ( and for the next
few weeks ) everybody was trying to do the Moonwalk. I thought he was the
coolest guy in the world back then.
... not so much now.


56. Taco Bell or Burger King?
Taco Bell, but there are about a million other places
I'd rather get a burrito from.


57. What's your favorite perfume?
Not a big fan or perfume. Kinda makes me sneeze.
Also doesn't taste very good ( I'll let your imagination run
wild with that one! ).


58. Favorite baseball team?
Meet the Mets!
Meet the Mets!
Step right up and greet the Mets!
Bring your kiddies, bring your wife!
Guaranteed to have the time of you life!
Because the Mets are really socking that ball,
knocking those home runs over the wall!
East side, West side, everybody's coming down,
to meet the M - E - T - S Mets of New York town!


59. Ever call a 1-900 phone number?
Nope.


60. What's the longest time you've gone without sleep?
43 hours.

61. Last time you went bowling?
Probably a few years ago. There was always too much smoking
in bowling alleys for me, but now that smoking has been banned in
New York and New Jersey bowling alleys, perhaps I'll go back.


62. Where is the weirdest place you have slept?
I've always had a hard time falling asleep, so I don't really have the
ability to fall asleep in a weird place. I guess I've slept on the floor once
or twice while visiting friends in college dorm rooms, but that's not particularly
weird.


63. Who was your last phone call?
I called my Aunt Barbara ( my Mom's sister ) earlier tonight.
She left a message for me to call because she needed somebody's
address for a Christmas card.


64. Last time you were at work?
Earlier today.


65. What's the closest orange object to you?

Aside from the orange "Publish Post" button, it would
be some orange thumbtacks on the desk behind me.

Monday, December 1, 2008

Letter to Santa

Michael wrote his letter to Santa this past weekend.







Friday, November 28, 2008

110 - 50

What are those numbers above? Is it a lopsided basketball score? Is it a really good blood pressure? Is it the won/loss record of a really good baseball team? No, it's what I like to think of as my vegetarian scorecard.
I'm am currently on a personal mission to become more vegetarian. Perhaps not 100% vegetarian ( It would be hard to imagine Thanksgivings without any turkey ), but certainly more vegetarian. I'm sure a lot of vegetarians would say that being partly vegetarian makes as much sense as being partly pregnant. I'm sure some of them would tell me that you are either an animal killer or you're not, but that's because a lot of vegetarians see vegetarianism as a moral choice. I really don't, at least not in the sense that a lot of vegetarians do. I have no problem with the killing of animals for food. I don't really anthropomorphize animals, and I don't think animals we use as livestock have the mental capacity to ponder life and death ( I think some animals, such as dolphins, whales, and chimps do have the mental capacity to ponder their own existence, so I would draw the line at killing those kinds of animals ). I also thinks it's naive to think that one can live a vegan life that doesn't exploit animals at all, unless one is willing to live naked in the woods for the rest of his/her life. Anyone who lives in house made of wood is already supporting the killing of animals, because a lot of tree-dwelling animals die as a result of their homes being chopped down. Plus, a lot of vegetables are grown on the plots of lands that used to be wild, which of course leads to the displacement and death of many wild animals. I actually think that actions that lead to the death of one wild animal are more morally wrong than actions that lead to the death of 100 livestock animals that would not have even existed if man wasn't breeding them in such large numbers.
My moral issue with meat eating actually has to do with the impact meat eating has on humans. For starters, the eating of meat is incredible wastefull. If you took all the corn and soybeans that are fed to livestock and simply fed them to people, you could feed about 16 times as many people as the resulting meat would. In a world with so many starving people, it seems morally wrong to waste that much food. Second, the production of meat creates an incredible amount of pollution. Third, the production of meat produces a lot of greenhouse gases and global warming. About a year ago, I read in the New York Times that if Americans ate 20% less meat, it would reduce greenhouse gas emissions as much as if everyone in the USA started driving a Toyota Prius. I may not have a moral problem with the killing of animals, but I am very much an environmentalist, so I've decided to start working towards reducing my meat consumption. In all honestly, it would be best if I just gave up meat entirely, but when people try to quit stuff cold turkey, they usually fail ( Oh just in case "cold turkey" is a USA-only term, I should briefly explain that quitting something "cold turkey" means quitting it in an immediate non-gradual fashion ). So rather than quit meat cold turkey, I decided to least take some steps in the right direction.
I took the first step during the 40 days that preceded Easter ( called Lent in the Catholic religion, and I imagine in some other Christian religions ) this year. Each Lent, Catholics traditionally give up something over the 40 days. We also give up eating meat ( except fish ) for each Friday during Lent ( Time for a quick tangent. Up until the early 1960's, Catholics were required to give up meat ( except fish ) every single Friday of the year. I find this very suspicious for the following reason: The Catholic church traces it's roots back to the original Christian Church, which was founded by Christ's apostles. For almost 2000 years, it was Church policy that the only meat you were allowed to eat on Friday was fish. So the Church has always had a policy which leads people to eat fish at least once a week. What was the profession of the apostles who founded the Church? Fishermen. Thus, I've always thought there was something a little bit "fishy" about this fish exception ). I personally like the taste of fish more than any other meat. So, for years I actually quite enjoyed that Fridays during Lent were considered to be "fish days". About 5 years ago, I decided that enjoying my Friday meals during Lent ( which is supposed to be all about denial ), was kinda against the whole spirit of Lent. So 5 years ago, I decided I should just simply be vegetarian during Lenten Fridays ( and nothing yummy and bad-for-you like pizza or pasta - nothing but veggies and tofu, beans, and nuts ). So, this year I decided to expand my vegetarian eating to every lunch I eat at work during Lent ( I eat lunch on my own each workday ( usually Chinese food ). I eat my dinners and weekend lunches with my family, and didn't feel like eating different meals than the rest of my family just yet. I already have vegetarian breakfasts when I actually eat breakfast ). So, the when the vegetarian lunches worked well during Lent, I decided to try to expand the policy to the rest of the year. Well, not all at once, actually. I figure I'd start small. I was planning to eat vegetarian for half my work meals the first year, and gradually convert to having all vegetarians meals at work over a period of about 5 years. After that, I would start converting the dinners, and within 10 years, I'd be an almost full vegetarian. Actually, I sincerely hope I can become a 100% full vegetarian someday, but I'm not going to make any promises to myself that I might not be able to keep. I still not sure I could be vegetarian during traditional family meals and gatherings, and as gross as hot dogs are, it seems almost un-American to eat anything other than a hot dog at a baseball game. In any case, I'm going to need to break a lot of very old habits if I'm going to get this done, and as somebody once said "The longest journey begins with a single step".
So, anyway, after all the long-winded stuff in the paragraphs above, I'm finally going to get to what the numbers above actually mean. After Lent ended, I started to keep a tally of meat meals vs. vegetarian meals during my lunches at work. My goal thing year was to just be 50% vegetarian, but since Lent the numbers are ...
110 vegetarian lunches
50 lunches with meat
So, I certainly still eat way too much meat, but at least I'm ahead of my not-so-ambitious schedule to convert to vegetarianism.
Oh one last thing, which is kinda a nod to a certain old friend in California who may be reading this ( he has commented on a handful of my blog posts ). I've noticed that a lot of folks ( including this friend of mine, and my new brother-in-law's father ) are semi-vegetarian in the sense that they do not eat any meat except for fish. I can clearly see some of the logic in that, but I'd like some clarification. Clearly, the industrial meat industry does some pretty bad things, from massive pollution and global warming, to treating animals remarkably inhumanely. So, all things considered, eating fish probably is at least marginally better than eating other kinds of meat. However, fish farming is pretty bad for the environment as well, and if everyone who currently eats industrial meat were to switch to wild fish, I think that overfishing would completely destroy the ecosystem of the ocean. Even considering all the bad things the meat industry does, the fishing industry just might be able to do worse things to the earth if we give them enough motivation to ( by increasing the demand for fish ). So, that's why I'm not distinguishing too much between fish and other meat ( although because I think fish does taste better than any other meat, I'll eat fish more often than other meats if given a choice ), and my goal is to simply eat less meat of every kind. I may not get to my goal anytime soon, but at least I can make sure I am headed in the right direction.
Sorry for the long post, I've just been thinking about this stuff a lot lately.
Rich

Thursday, November 27, 2008

Peter; My Backyard; My Wife

I know I've been telling a lot of sob stories about Peter lately, so I thought I'd make it clear just what a sweet little beautiful boy he is. The photo above is of Peter in his Thinking Chair back on March 29th of this year.
The photos below are of me playing ( American ) football with the boys back on October 4th, and some nice shots my wife took of the backyard on November 4th ( Election Day ). Do yourself a favor and click on the photos of the pretty leaves to get the full-size color impact.














A bunch of my YouTube subscribers have asked for my wife to appear in a YouTube video. She's a bit shy about being on the Internet, so she won't be on YouTube anytime soon. She also wouldn't want her picture posted in a public blog like this one. However, if you are one of my curious YouTube subscribers, and you are kind enough to be reading this blog post, I thought I'd point you to where you can find some photos of my wife ( BTW, her name is Ruth ). Just click on this facebook link, and send me a friend request. If the link doesn't work, just search facebook for the name "Rich MoLewis" ( BTW, MoLewis is not my real last name. I don't really want people to find me on facebook. If I wanted to keep in contact with somebody from my past, I statyed in contact with him/her, and I already have his/her phone number and email address ). After you get access to the facebook page, look for the photo album entitled "The Maternity Files".
Rich

Sunday, November 23, 2008

55 Questons ( Hey you, scroll down! )

Well after a week of working on it, I finally finished my 55 question blog. Unfortunately, because I started the post on Nov 16th, it's being listed as Nov 16th post, and it is not at the top of my blog. Rather than risk that a week of blogging might go unnoticed and unread, I will kindly ask the reader to scroll down to the "55 Questions" post below, or simply click on this link to go right to the post.

Wednesday, November 19, 2008

Bad Dream

Last night, I had a dream that I was back in college. It was more than halfway through the semester, and I had just realized that I had been skipping most of my classes and I had missed most of my assignments. I also had exams coming up soon, and I was woefully unprepared. I still have those kind of bad dreams all the time, either about High School or college. I felt soooooo relieved when I woke up, and it got my thinking about a great clip from the movie Top Secret ( I couldn't find a YouTube video that had the scene all by itself, but if you want to see it, watch from 4:21 - 4:48 in the video here. ).
Rich

Sunday, November 16, 2008

55 Questions

A few weeks ago, munchkinhugs ( Shweta ) made this blog post. Since then, I've been thinking about how I might have answered some of the question in that blog post. It was only a matter of time before I took a crack at it, so here goes ( Keep in mind that I composed this post over several days. I suck at answering questions succinctly, so this took a while. This post is very very L---O---N---G. You may not be able to get through it all at once, but please read/reply when you can, because I think I revealed a lot here ).

TEN HOW'S:

How did you get one of your scars?
I covered this topic in a recent video.

How did you celebrate your last birthday?
I'm not really into celebrating my own birthday. It's not because I have any fear of aging or anything. It's just that birthdays kinda lost their magic for me when I got old enough that I could buy my own stuff. I'll admit that I enjoyed birthdays as a kid purely from a materialistic standpoint. When my birthday came, I knew it was present time! Now, if I really want a present ( which isn't very often ), I just go out and buy it, no matter what time of year it is.
To answer the question more specifically, on my last birthday ( which was January 15, 2008, my 38th ), my wife probably bought a small cake from the supermarket, just so we could sing happy birthday and blow out the candles for the sake of the kids.

How are you feeling at this moment?
Tired, always so tired. I should really be catching up on sleep now, but I love to blog!

How did your night go last night?
Oh God. Last night ( Which at the time I'm writing this would have been Saturday, November 15, 2008 ) we drove into Flushing for the 100-day celebration for the baby of one of my wife's friends. It was pretty much your standard Chinese banquet with a 10-course meal ( jellyfish, shrimp and walnuts, shark-fin style soup, lobster, scallops, mushroom plate, fish plate, chicken plate, etc. ). My wife and I have probably been to about 30 of those between all the weddings and celebrations for babies, and they are usually a lot of fun ( We both love to eat! ). However, last night, the boys behaved really badly. They kept running around ( we briefly lost track of Michael ), and Peter was throwing tantrums left and right. I actually walked about 10 blocks in the rain to get them McDonald's Happy Meals ( They can be picky eaters ), but that only kept them occupied for so long. We were both exhausted at the end of the night, especially after the long drive home in a driving rain ( We got home at close to midnight ).

How did you find the one you lost your virginity to?
The "one" would be my wife, and she is truly my one and only. She is the only girl I have ever even kissed romantically or held hands with romantically. We met at college, when I was a 3rd year student, and she was a 1st year student. The story of what happened between the time we met ( early February 1991 ) and the day we officially became a couple ( April 6th, 1991 ) is an interesting story, but it's too long for this blog post, and it's probably isn't something I should share in a public forum.

How did you get the shirt you're wearing?
My cousin Steven gave it to me as a Christmas present. It's a T-shirt for his college baseball team. He was a pitcher and played briefly in the minor leagues for a few years.

How often do you see ur best friend?
As corny as it may sound, I consider my wife to be my best friend, so I guess the answer is every day. As far as all my other close friends go, I love them all, but between work and the kids, I don't get to see them that often these days.

How much money did you spend last month?
Well, I have a mortgage, so if you count that, along with all the other expenses that come with a home, insurance, kid's college funds, etc., I actually spend a huge amount each month. However, if you don't count that kind of stuff, I spent almost nothing. I'll buy newspapers to read on the train, but I don't really buy a lot for myself these days. When it comes to stuff like clothes, my wife will buy stuff and ask me to try it on every once in a while, and if it fits okay, I'll usually keep it. I'm not really picky about my clothes.

How old do you want to be when you get married?
I was 26 when I got married.

How will you celebrate your next birthday?
Probably in the same low key way I celebrated my last birthday.

NINE WHAT'S:
Your mothers name?
Her name was June. Her initials ( including her confirmation name ) before she got married were actually J. E. T. S., which is kinda amazing considering that she wound up being a huge Jets fan ( she was born long before the Jets existed ), and passed that passion for the Jets down to her sons.
Also, this reminds me that my wife and I actually have exactly the same initials. The first letters of our first, middle, and last names match ( BTW, our lasts names are different and start with the same letter ( she kept her last name when we got married ) ).

What did you do last weekend?
We went to a 100-day celebration for the baby of one of my wife's friends (see above ). On Sunday, my wife went into the city to celebrate a friend's birthday, and spent the day at home playing with the kids.

What is the most important part of your life?
My children.

What would you rather be doing?
I'd rather be swimming in tropical waters.

What did you last cry over?
Probably, the last 20 minutes of the movie "Field of Dreams". I'm not really the type who cries tears of sorrow, but I will tear up when I find something very touching. The end of "Field of Dreams" gets me every time, especially the part where Ray says "Dad, do you wanna have a catch?".

What always makes you feel better when you’re upset?
Hugging my kids.

What’s the most important thing you look for in a significant other?
Kindness

What are you worried about?
My sons - specifically their future.

What did you have for breakfast?
No breakfast today ( Nov. 19th ). The only time I really eat a full-sized breakfast is when I'm away on vacation. I do have a glass of OJ each morning at work ( we get free fresh squeezed OJ! ), and sometime a granola bar or a piece of bread with peanut butter on it ( We also have a peanut butter machine at work! ).

EIGHT HAVE YOU’S:
Have you ever had your heartbroken?
Yes, several times, but never in the sense that a girl was intentionally trying to hurt me. All my broken hearts were the result of me falling in love with a girl who didn't feel the same way about me. I spoke about one example in this video.

Have you ever been out of the country?
Yep, but not as much as I would have liked to. I was 20 before I took my first trip out of the USA ( and that was just a quick road trip Canada with my college buddies ). The first time I ever left the American continent was my honeymoon at the age of 26 ( we went to Italy ). The next time was a 10-day trip to Taiwan with my wife ( with a day and a half in Hong Kong ) when I was 30. Aside from that, the only other times were excursions of a few hours in Mexico, Jamaica, and the Dominican Republic as part of a Caribbean cruise when I was 29.

Have you ever done something outrageously dumb?
Well, I have been to jail, but that wasn't really a case of me being stupid. That was more a case of a redneck cop being a complete prick. No, the true example of me being outrageously dumb happened about 2 weeks into my 2nd year of college.
I was 19, and my experience with alcohol had been limited to 3 times I did a little binge drinking during the second half of Freshman year. So, I certainly wasn't a big drinker ( which of course is a good thing ), but I did find that I had pretty decent natural tolerance as compared to some of my friends ( who also were pretty much newbie drinkers ). So despite the fact the I wasn't much of a drinker, I took a kind of perverse pride in my belief that I could drink my friends under the table.
So in any case, when we went to a house party with alcohol early in my sophomore year, it was my outrageously dumb goal to consume more drinks than any of my friends. So, I wasn't really drinking to have fun. In fact, I wasn't even really drinking to get drunk ( though of course, that was exactly what happened ). I was drinking in order to win some stupid macho competition to see who could drink the most. Unfortunately, I won.
The next thing I knew, I woke up laying on a bed in the campus health center with an IV stuck in my arm. Apparently an ambulance was involved at one point. I never did need to get my stomach pumped, because I had already emptied all the contents of my stomach on to the walls in the bathroom where the house party took place. I was told that my blood alcohol had been measured at .21 ( so it was good thing I puked before all the other alcohol got into my system ), and I had answered the questions below in the following way when the paramedics arrived on the scene:

What is your name?
Catholic ( That's my religion, so I guess that's close enough )

Can you recite the alphabet?
( I started to recite it in Spanish )

Do you know where you are?
Apparently I started speaking in Middle English ( I was studying Chaucer at the time ).

Well anyway, this was clearly an example of outrageous stupidity. The one good thing is that I learned a valuable lesson about the dangers of alcohol at a very early age.


Have you ever been back stabbed by a friend?
Nope, not even close. I choose my friends carefully, and I think I'm a very good judge of character.

Have you ever had sex on the beach?
My wife isn't they type who would ever agree to have sex in any kind of public place. However, even if the beach was completely abandoned and my wife was up for it, I can't think of too many worse places to have sex than on a beach. All that sand getting caught in all those - um - places?
Gross.

Have you ever dated someone younger than you?
Well, my wife is two years younger than me, but this actually seems like kind of a silly question. In every couple, one person is younger than the other, so it's not really unusual to date somebody younger than you. A better question might be, "Have you ever dated somebody a lot younger than you?". Perhaps this question was directed more at women, because women have traditionally dated older men, but even that is changing these days. My group of "neighborhood friends" ( Friends that I know from my childhood neighborhood as opposed to school or work ) consists of 3 friends, my brother, and me. All 5 of us are married now, and I'm the only guy in the group who married somebody younger than he was.

Have you ever read an entire book in one day?
Yup.

SEVEN WHO’S:
Who was the last person you saw?
My boys are asleep on the floor right next to me, and my wife is asleep on the couch behind me as I'm typing this ( 12:13 AM on Nov 23 ).

Who was the last person you texted?
If you had asked people in the mid 20th century, what they thought phone technology would be like in the 21st century, they would have invariable said something like "phone with a video screen that lets you look at the person you are talking to" ( like the phones in "The Jetsons" ). Thus, I find it rather odd that with all our 21st century technology, people are sending messages via text with their phones. What's next? Will Apple unveil a telegraph application for the iPhone?
Anyway, that's just a long-winded way of saying that I have never sent a text message. I'm sure it can be fun, but I'm kinda old-school, and I'll just use my voice to communicate if I want to contact somebody via phone. I'm sure I'd be texting left and right if I had been born about 20 years later, but for now, I'm still very old-school ( Plus, I don't have a Blackberry, iPhone, or any mobile device that let's you type using a QWERTY keyboard. My cell phone just has numbers on it. I could text with it, but it would be a real pain ).

Who was the last person you hungout with?
I've been hanging out all day with my kids today ( Sunday Nov. 23rd, watching football ). However, if we are not talking about my immediate family, or a large party ( we went to a party at a friend's place yesterday ( a college friend of mine who had moved to Hong Kong is in the States for a week ) , and I saw a lot of my college buddies ), it's probably been a while. I loved to hang out with my buddies during my college days, but after you get married and have kids, that stuff really ends. Well, I guess it doesn't have to end. A lot of married guys like to "hang out with the boys", and leave their wife and kids at home, but I'm not really that type. I just love to have family time at home. When I do hang out with one of my buddies, my wife ( and kids ) and his wife ( and kids, if applicable ) are usually part of the outing. The last time we did something like that was mid-October, when we went apple picking with one of my buddies and his wife.

Who was the last person to call you?
My Dad.

Who did you last hug?
I hugged my son Michael a few minutes ago.

Who is the last person who texted you?
My Dad. He sent me a text message out of the blue about 2 months ago. That just shows how old-school I am. Even my Dad has gotten into texting before me.

Who was the last person you said "i love you" to?
My son Michael ( when I was hugging him ).

SIX WHERE’S:
Where do you live?
Edison, New Jersey, USA - but I'll always consider myself to be a New Yorker.

Where did you last go?
My wife and kids went to a get together at a friend's house yesterday ( Nov 22nd ).

Where did you last hang out?
Depending on what you mean by "hang out" ( see the hang-out question above ), it was either at home, at my friend's house for the party on Saturday, or at an apple orchid.

Where do you go to school?
I got a BS in Mechanical Engineering from Cornell University in '92, a Master of Engineering (Mechanical ) from Cornell in '93, but the best educational institution I ever attended was Stuyvesant High School ( Class of 1988 ).

Where is your favorite place to be?
There's no place like home.

Where did you sleep last night?
My nice comfy bed.

FIVE DO’S/DOES:
Do you like someone right now?
What is this, 3rd Grade?

Do you think anyone likes you?
See above. I would think my wife and I "like" each other if "like" means what it did back in 3rd Grade.

Do you ever wish you were someone else?
I think I'm pretty happy being me. It's not that I wouldn't want to trade circumstances with somebody, it's just that I'd still like to be me under those circumstances. Sure, it would be nice to inherit a billion dollars from some long-lost relative, but I'd only want it to happen if I could still be me, and still have the people I love in my life.

Do you know the muffin man?
Oh, yes, I know the muffin man, the muffin man, the muffin man;
Oh, yes, I know the muffin man, who lives on Drury Lane.

Does the future scare you?
I'm always scared about my boys' future.

FOUR WHY’S:
Why are you best friends with your best friend(s)?
They listen.

Why did you get a myspace?
I thought it would be fun to check out other people's myspace pages. I doubt I'll actually do much with the myspace page, but then again I'm in the middle of writing a massive blog entry for a blog I thought I'd barely update.

Why did your parents give you the name you have?
I'm named after my Dad, because my Dad wanted his first son to be named after him. However, my mother didn't want me to be a Junior, so I have a different middle name than my Dad. BTW, if I'd had been born a girl, I would have had the name Michelle.

Why are you doing this survey?
See the first paragraph of this blog post.

THREE IF’S:
If you could have one super power what would it be?
Flight.

If you could go back in time and change one thing, would you?
We all make mistakes occassionally that hurt the ones we love. If I could go back in time, I'd try to correct those mistakes.

If u were stranded on a deserted island & could bring 1 thing what would you bring?
A boat.

TWO WOULD-YOU-EVER’S:
Would you ever get back together with any of your ex’s if they asked you?
Considering that my wife is the only girlfriend I've ever had, this question doesn't really apply to me. However, theroretically, if I was a single guy who had ex's, I'm sure I would not want to get back with any of them. I can't imagine breaking up with somebody unless I had a really good reason, and if somebody hurt me by breaking up with me, I would never want to take that person back.

Would you ever shave your head to save someone you love?
I'd give up limbs to save someone I love, and I'd give my life for my sons without blinking.

ONE LAST QUESTION
Are you happy with your life right now?
Things are sometime tough with work and the issues with my kids, and I have my moments of despair, but all-in-all I realize how blessed I am.